Lead and Learn Educational Consulting
Becoming confident and ready to advocate for your child, with clarity, purpose, and success.
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Hi, I’m Darby Ahlfinger Special Education Consultant and Parent Coach.
Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by IEP meetings or unsure how to advocate for your child with disabilities, you’re not alone and you’re in the right place. I help parents like you understand their child’s needs, navigate the special education system with clarity, and show up with confidence at the IEP table.
As a former special education supervisor, a parent ally, and someone who’s lived the journey of having disabilities myself, I believe one child at a time can change the world...starting with yours.
Here, you’ll find the tools, support, and calm space you need to lead your child forward.
Feel Confident Before You Sign the IEP: 'Get Started with This Free Guide!'
This easy-to-follow guide will help you:
âś… Ask the right questions
âś… Understand what to look for
✅ Make sure your child’s IEP truly supports their needs
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✨ Get your Free IEP/504 Quick Start Pack and discover what every parent needs before their next meeting plus a bonus All About Me templates and an IEE Request Guide to help you advocate like a pro.
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🧻 Potty Training with Panda
Finally… Support That Actually Makes Sense
Potty training your child with autism or developmental delays can feel like an endless cycle of frustration, false starts, and tears (sometimes yours, too).
If you’ve tried everything and still feel stuck, this on-demand training is for you.
For just $27, you'll get access to:
âś… A calm, realistic training video led by Autism expert Panda Krouse (30+ years of experience)
âś… Printable support materials to help you implement what you learn
âś… Guidance tailored specifically for neurodivergent learners
You don’t need to guess anymore. You just need a path forward that fits your child and your family.
This is not a generic potty training course.
This is real help from someone who has supported hundreds of families through this exact process with a 98% success rate and now she’s here to support you, too.
✨ You can download it today, rewatch it as needed, and finally take the next step with confidence.
Ready to make progress without pressure?
👉 Click below to access the training + support tools
Courses & Coaching Designed to Make Learning Work For Every Child, in Every Setting
Whether your child is in public school, homeschool, or private school, you deserve trusted support to help them thrive and to feel empowered doing it.
I'm Darby Ahlfinger, and I’ve spent nearly three decades helping families and educators understand what a child really needs to succeed.
This fall, I’m launching new digital courses, coaching programs, and resources designed to simplify your role, support your confidence, and spark your child’s success.
But I’m not stopping there.
I’m also connecting families with trusted experts who can support the whole picture: tutors for academic growth, potty training specialists, Dyslexia experts, and executive functioning coaches who truly understand what your child needs.
Because when the right tools meet the right heart you will lead your child well.
✨ Stay tuned and join my list so you're the first to know when the doors open for the next opportunity!
Get ready for Accommodations Decoded — How to Choose, Request, and Track the Right Supports So Your Child Can Thrive at School.
đź“… Registration opens November 24, 2025.
đź’» The live workshop happens January 2, 2026.
Don’t miss exclusive Black Friday and Cyber Monday discounts when doors open!
Here’s What Parents Are Saying About Working With Lead and Learn:Â
"Darby provided my husband and I with a tremendous amount of guidance and support in helping us advocate and support for our son. It is evident that she truly cares about each child's education and well being as she worked to help us navigate a very confusing and overwhelming system, creating a tailored plan for our son’s success. Her knowledge and experience of the Texas Education system is top notch!"
-Jason and Jennifer S., Parent of a 4 year old with Autism
"Before working with Darby, I felt overwhelmed and completely lost in the IEP process. She not only helped me understand my child’s rights, but gave me the confidence to speak up and ask the right questions. Thanks to her guidance, my daughter is finally getting the support she needs—and I no longer feel alone. Every parent of a child with a disability needs a Darby in their corner."
— Michelle R., Parent of a 7th grader with a learning disability
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