Which strategies have you found most helpful? What are some things that you do to make sure you get enough sleep, amidst all that you do? Let us all know by posting a comment here.
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The "r" word, as it's been recently dubbed, isn't the only problem with this movie. Sadly, according to parents of children with special needs who have seen it, there are scenes that promote harmful stereotypes of people with cognitive disabilities.
There are some who say that the actual message of the movie is not to make fun of people with disabilities, but to show how wrong it is to do so. Unfortunately, I suspect that even if this were true, such an underlying "deeper message" will be lost on the young crowd to whom this movie is being marketed.
There's been a lot of buzz about Tropic Thunder in the news, on email lists and in blogs over the past several days. If I had to pick one article that says it all for me, it would have to be one written by Patricia Bauer on August 16th, as well as her follow-up writings on the topic. Patricia Bauer is a journalist and former reporter and bureau chief at the Washington Post, and has a daughter with Down Syndrome. You can read it here:
http://www.patriciaebauer.com/2008/08/16/tropic-thunder-my-views/
and also here, along with some scenes from the movie:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/story/2008/08/15/ST2008081503088.html
Fellow moms and dads of children with special needs, hang in there ... this is yet another obstacle in our uphill battle to help our kids fully gain acceptance and respect in society. The good news is this: special needs parents, groups, and organizations have rallied together and spoken out in an inspiring and empowering show of unity, against the degradation and exploitation of people with cognitive disabilities in the name of box office profits. And I truly believe America is hearing our message.
]]>By the way, after the quiz there's an article on a school in Stafford County, VA where a 10-year-old boy was denied the right to bring his service dog to school. School officials argued in court that "public schools are not public entities." HELLO!?! There's more - but I'll let you read the article for yourself!
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]]>Have you read today's newsletter article Bedtime Strategies the Work?
What are your favorite bedtime strategies? Share them here by posting a comment - we all would love to hear what keeps your child happy and cooperative at bedtime!
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]]>So if going away just isn’t in the cards this summer, I have a Coach Request for you today. Get out your calendar, find a free weekend, and reserve it for a mini-vacation you can take without leaving home. If you can add on a Friday and/or a Monday, (or more!) all the better!
The idea behind taking an at-home vacation is the same as taking any other vacation. It’s a chance to relax, recharge, and re-connect with family. It’s a way to set aside the usual chores, get away from the daily grind, and put the to-do list on hold. In a nutshell, it’s a time to kick back and have some fun!
There are two things you need to do for a successful at-home vacation. The first is to prepare to make things as easy as possible that weekend. The second is to plan some activities and destinations so you’ll have things to look forward to and to keep you in “fun mode” that weekend.
Get ready …
Your first goal is to eliminate as many to-do’s and interruptions as possible during your mini-vacation at home, so you can give yourself a well-deserved break! Between now and then:
Plan ahead some meals that will be quick and easy to make, and have all the ingredients on hand before your weekend starts. Cook ahead and freeze some meals, so you can simply heat and serve during your at-home vacation. Get paper plates and cups for easy clean-up.
For one or more meals during your at-home vacation, plan to get take-out or eat at a local restaurant.
Do enough laundry ahead of time to get you through that weekend without having to go near the washer and dryer. Try to have enough done to carry you into the days after your at-home vacation as well.
Stop the mail. You can pick it up or have it delivered when you “get back” from your at-home vacation.
Set up an “out of office reply” on your email. Plan to check your email only once a day during your mini-vacation.
Let friends and family know you’re going to be “away” that weekend, and, just as if you were on a “real” vacation, you won’t be answering the phone. Give them your cell phone number if they need to contact you in an emergency. To avoid being interrupted by sales calls, figure out how to turn off the ringer on your home phone if you don’t know how. Plan to check your phone messages only once a day during your at-home vacation.
Do ahead any other jobs that you might normally do before going on vacation. Water the plants, take out the trash, etc. You might even consider getting someone to take care of your pets for that weekend.
Take a trip to the library or bookstore and pick up some light vacation reading, such as a favorite magazine or a fun book. You might want to have some new reading materials on hand for the kids too.
Go!
So your weekend vacation at home is here … what do you do now? Get ready to relax and have some fun! Here are some possibilities for a weekend the family will always remember:
Explore one of those nearby places that you’ve always wanted to visit, but never seem to get a chance: a museum, a park, a farm, or any other tourist attraction that’s been right under your nose all this time.
Tried and true favorites can be just as fun too – the local library, the neighborhood playground, or even a walk around the block can be a blast when the schedule’s not an issue and you can take your time and enjoy.
What other fun things are there to do in your area? You might go bowling, make a necklace at a bead store, paint some ceramics at a pottery place, go to a story hour at the library or nearest bookstore.
Have some backyard family fun: play ball, run through the sprinkler, spread out a blanket and enjoy some snacks, drinks, and downtime. Bring the radio, an umbrella and some sunscreen for a true vacation feel!
Your kids might enjoy a craft activity for some downtime, and it doesn’t have to be complicated. Just sitting and playing with play-dough, dabbling with paints, coloring, playing with stamps, cutting out pictures from old magazines and gluing them to a big sheet of paper … the possibilities are endless. Even parents and older kids can get into this!
Rent some movies the whole family will enjoy watching together. Grab the snacks, snuggle up, and enjoy!
Does your family have a favorite board game? Stick to games that everyone already knows, to avoid confusion and frustration.
Jigsaw puzzles are a vacation favorite – you might even have some at home that you haven’t had a chance to put together yet. Your local library might lend out puzzles too. Or consider borrowing a puzzle from a friend, neighbor, or relative. Put out the pieces on a table where you can leave it out all weekend for whenever someone feels the whim to put a few pieces in place.
Save some time to spend with your spouse, either while the kids are busy playing or after they go to bed. You might even get a sitter to watch the kids for a while, so the two of you can go out.
Final thoughts
During your vacation at home, before you do anything that feels like a task, ask yourself, “would I do this if I were away on vacation?” If the answer is no, then stop! This weekend is for fun only!
Stay in the present moment as much as possible during your weekend. When you find your thoughts wandering to recent stressful events, or worries about the future, stop those thoughts in their tracks (I actually picture a big stop sign!), and refocus on right now.
Remember to take lots of pictures! You may even want to create a little memory book – easy and inexpensive at Kodak Gallery, Snapfish, or Shutterfly, among others.
Enjoy your mini-vacation at home! Drop me a line when you get back – or post a comment and tell us all about it!
]]>Luckily, everywhere we went that summer, we drove. (Imagine explaining THAT one to the airport security agents!)
Funny? Yes! Weird? Definitely! But we did it anyway, for my son, for my sanity, and for the sake of our fellow hotel guests.
When he was younger, my son used to wake up absolutely ravenous. He had to eat first thing, before doing anything else. To complicate matters, my son is completely deaf first thing in the morning, before he gets his cochlear implant processors on -- so back then, when his hearing was off, he didn't care how loud he yelled, it didn't bother him! On top of that, the only thing he would eat for breakfast was toast and fruit. And waiting for anything - especially to get breakfast -- was NOT his strong suit. All of this was a perfect set-up for some very difficult mornings while staying in a hotel, where people might actually want to sleep a bit later than 6:00 am!
Bringing the toaster along with us turned out to be one of the best parenting strategies I ever used. Those vacation mornings, my son and I would wake up early, make some toast, spread the jelly, and munch happily, hardly making a peep. Potential tantrums averted! It was a great way to start the day. Our faithful toaster came with us to Sturbridge, MA, the Shenandoahs in VA, and Cape Cod, MA, as well as to the homes of friends and family with whom we stayed that summer.
Since then, now that my son is 8, mornings have gotten easier. He often sleeps a little later than 6:00 am, and he's learned to use a softer voice when he doesn't have his sound on. He's made some progress in the art of waiting patiently. He likes a lot more kinds of breakfast foods, some of which he can even serve himself.
Since that summer, we've been able to leave the toaster at home when we go away. It still sits on our counter, and still gets plenty of use. It's probably one of the few small appliances in existence that's so well-traveled and has so many fond memories attached to it! Now, as my son makes toast some mornings for both himself and the family, he barely remembers our early morning vacation toast fests, but I will never forget them.
What strategies have you used for great vacations with your child with special needs? Let us know - post a comment!
]]>If you're like many moms and dads of children with special needs, you've got a list - or maybe even an actual stack - of books related to your child's disability or special needs waiting to be read. I know -- I've got my own stack right here on my desk, on a wide range of topics. Books on medical/biological info, books outlining special education laws and processes, books on learning and psychology, parenting books, advocacy books, etc. We parents of children with special needs do so much reading and research that we probably earn the equivalent of a graduate degree over the years as we raise our kids!
But here's my Coach Request for you today. For every special-needs-related book you read this summer, try to also read one book that's just for fun. Doesn't matter if it's a literary work or the latest "beach reading." Make it something that's just for you, just because.
Happy Reading!
Read any good books lately, either special-needs-related or just for fun? Do tell! I'm always looking for good book suggestions. Post a comment!
]]>Namits - I keep these in my purse for those times when we find ourselves waiting in line or stuck in traffic. They also come in handy at restaurants when the meals are taking longer than usual to arrive! Available at www.Hearthsong.com and search on "Namits" -- the product page appears right away (the direct product link was too long to include here.)
Conversations To Go - This is a nice set of little conversation cards with interesting questions, packaged cutely in a Chinese-takeout shaped box. Available at http://www.moonjar.com/store/ . We keep these on our kitchen table, and when mealtime starts to get a little out of control, I casually reach into the box and pull out a question. Works like magic!
Social Smart Kids Discussion Cards - Each of these cards has a multiple choice question related to common social situations that kids find themselves in. They are written in a style that's lighthearted and at times even funny. I love these cards because they help me start discussions about social challenges with my son, in a way that's much easier than "having a talk." Available at www.SocialSmartKids.com.
Conversation Starters - There's a whole series of these, including: Everyday Conversation, School, Home and Family, Things I Like To Do, and more. Available at www.SpecialNeedsProject.com . I haven't used these myself but they look great - very simple and easy to use with younger and older children alike.
Do you know of any more conversation cards? Post a comment and let us know!
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